Our relationships are the glue that keeps everything together. Whether those relationships are in the work place, the local church, with family, friends or with a spouse, most of us have relationships on some level or another.
After all it’s what makes us human. Whether we like it or not, at the very core of human behavior is a psychological need to belong. It is part of our nature to seek love, acceptance and form close connections with others.
We are social beings and share a common bond that truly helps us navigate our way through life. When there is a strong connection during the early stages of childhood for example with family, friends and our community networks, I believe it sets the stage for the relationships we inevitably attract in the future.
Consequently, those who have experienced strong, healthy relationships as a normal part of their experience, tend to seek them out and fit more comfortably in the environment of a well-balanced relationship.
So indeed it is perfectly healthy and normal to have friends, family, co-workers, acquaintances, a lover and your significant other to feature and play that role in your life.
When Relationships Go Awry!
But what happens when friends move away. When that ‘you know what’ you thought was your best friend, runs off with your husband? How could they do that to you?!
What becomes of you when you lose your job and co-workers all go their separate ways, never to be seen again?
Or what about that awful media scandal involving Pastor John and that 15-year old that your church never quite recovered from, forcing them to close up shop?
And how could you ever look at your sister again after she stole all your savings and spent it on her man?
When your mother died it hurt, oh how it hurt.
The relationships we have with others are an important part of our lives and our development. Some are good and others not so good but they all have one thing in common.
Like life itself, all relationships change.
Nothing in life is constant. Every single thing is subject to the changing cycles of life. And it is this principle that underpins the 6 reasons that you should love yourself first. Because when all else is gone, guess what? There is only YOU.
You’re the one that has to pick up the pieces after a broken marriage or fill up your life up with meaning after your children go off to college. Even after a challenging or traumatic experience, you are the only one that can put ‘you’ back together again!
That’s not to say you won’t have family and friends to support you in such difficult times, you most likely will. But you are the one that has to tap in to your inner self and find the strength and courage to overcome whatever obstacles come your way. No one else can make that journey, but you.
And so often is the case that you don’t know how. Women in particular spend their entire life giving and doing for others. To the kids, husbands, family, friends, to their career, to everybody else, but to yourself!
But you MUST give to yourself because it creates the strongest and most precious platform to enable you to give to others.
With that said here are 6 Reasons To Love YOU First:
- Greatness starts with YOU
You are here in this world to be GREAT. That journey begins with self-discovery. It is not conditional on what your mother thinks, your husband expects, or what your kid’s demand.
None of the above.
It is a treasure chest of jewels that lie within and can ONLY be found when you embark on that intimate and personal journey of Self. Greatness is YOU realized.
- To Seek Your Purpose
When you love YOU first everything you do is from a place of authenticity. You don’t have to pretend to be anything else, but you.
And guess what? From that authentic place you discover what you love, what your passions are, what you get joy from, and it all comes wrapped up in your life’s purpose.
And the best thing of all? You get to do what you love and it naturally and perfectly aligns with Who You Are. The grand design of your life is a multitude of colours and contours!
“I had no idea that being your authentic self could make me as rich as I’ve become. If I had, I’d have done it a lot earlier.” ~ Oprah Winfrey
3. You Place A High VALUE On Who You Are
When you truly love YOU it reverberates to the furthest reaches of the Universe and sets a standard that attracts goodness in to your life.
You reject abusive, destructive and dysfunctional situations that do not serve you. You have no problem recognizing the cost of staying in a hostile relationship and refuse to be trampled on.
When you love YOU, others will too and you will find yourself in the embrace of wholesome and healthy relationships.
Loving YOU sends a powerful statement into to ethereal realms that returns beautiful, deep, meaningful and enriching experiences to support your journey.
- For Those Who Love You♥
When you give, give and give to others and not to yourself, you end up tired, depleted and incapable of being the very best version of YOU.
It means you’re worn out for the kids. Your get up and go has all but got up and gone, when it comes to fun between the sheets with hubby.
And as for hitting those performance targets at work, well, you are the moving target and sooner or later, you’re going to get hit!
So slow down, take time out, putting YOU first means you are operating from the best place possible to give more to those you love. It’s a win win for all, your loved ones need you to shine and NOT to fall.
- When The Storm Comes Riding By!
We’ve all been there! You lost your job, your husband walked out, your car was repossessed, your business crashed or your son wounded up on drugs! 🙁
Life hits and when it does, it hits hard!
You find yourself alone, down and out. The chips aren’t down, they’re gone! And excuse the cliché but even ya blues got blues!
Where do you go, what do you do? You STOP! And turn to YOU!
You dig deep down inside and pull out the strength and resolve you need to get up. To face another tomorrow and to overcome the obstacles weighing you down.
Loving YOU has created the indelible platform to weather the storm and come out smiling on the other side.
You are perfectly positioned to swim up stream, take the knock backs and get back in the game.
You are not going to crumple and die, the stuff you’re made of has a solid foundation and you draw upon it in times of need to pull you through.
So when the storm comes riding by, you’re ready, prepared and able to ride baby ride those waves! 🙂
- Loving YOU is Classy!
Have you ever met someone who has a very natural charm and style and a certain Je ne sais quoi? Their smile lights up a room and you’re magnetized by their graceful charisma?
And it’s not because of some tight tacky boob and butt all in your face type of style. It’s classy! It’s different, it’s chic and sexy all rolled into one hell of a dynamic bold, beautiful and spirited woman.
If you have ever met someone like that who is kind and exudes an attractive self-confidence with a flair all of her own, chances are, she’s in love with herself.
When you love YOU, your smile is from the inside out and warms the hearts of many. Your view of the world is from a happy place and what you want for yourself, you sincerely want for others. It is a pleasure to be in your company and you may very well have found, the ultimate secret to happiness!
So you see, loving yourself first gives rise to and creates a space for all the things that you value in your life. It’s not selfish, it’s not sacrifice or self-centred, it’s quite simply the most important and necessary gift you give to yourself and to the world.
Give yourself permission to Love You, click here for some great ways to get started.
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