Have you ever come across people who seem a bit lost? They’re not necessarily suicidal or depressed but they don’t have much of a spark. They tend to go along with the crowd and almost seem to fade into the background of life.
Then there are others who simply shine and charm their way through life. I’m not talking about in a vain, egotistical kind of way but it’s much more to do with their aura or presence, you couldn’t hate them even if you tried!
What is it that makes some people shine while others remain in the backdrop of life ? Is about your personality? Your confidence perhaps? Or maybe it’s something you’re born with or develop along the way!
I believe it has everything to do with knowing Who You Are. What do I mean by this?
Knowing who you are is an inner reference point. It is the moral compass you rely on as you journey through life. It is a strong platform from which you derive strength and direction and draw upon in times of need.
Knowing who you are defines your life and like the bamboo tree blowing in treacherous winds, you are forever anchored at its source, regardless of the outside condition.
You live from a Position of Power but not the external power that seeks recognition and applause. Yours is a much deeper authority and is the place from which you light up the entire world!
Do you know Who You Are? Check out these 8 Signs that will leave you with no doubt!
- You Don’t Dress to Impress
You have the distinctive ability to just be YOU. You don’t spend all your time trying to impress others in the hope they will like or accept you. Because you are accepting of yourself and appreciate your own value to the world, it doesn’t matter what other people make of you. If it’s a problem, it’s their problem, you’re here to do You!
- You Don’t Apologise For Your Space in the World
Hell no! You’ve already fought off 600 million other sperm to get to that egg, now it’s your time to lay claim to that unique spot which has your name written all over it!
So you move with a sense of purpose, a pep in your step that makes you stand out from the crowd. It is not arrogant or conceited but a statement to the world that you have the right to be here, the world is better because you’re in it!
You know that playing second fiddle or dancing to someone else’s beat could never have the same rhythm as yours.
So you dance in harmony with your heart and soul making sweet music on the grand stage of your life!
- Your Replace Fear with Faith
You just do it! You have an indelible platform that propels you to wherever you choose to go. Do you feel the fear? Of course you do! Fear is the most primitive of your emotions that you need for survival. So you feel the fear but do it anyway. Not in a reckless, haphazard type of way, that’s not your style. You plan and know to yourself…you can!
Your faith can move mountains and it matters not whether that is faith in a higher power or faith in you. You place faith in who you are and even if nobody else believes in your dream, guess what? You do and that’s all you need to see it through!
- You Know How To Do It your Way
When you live from a position of power it reflects in everything you do and everything you are. Your goal is not to fit in but to stand out. And stand out you do, complete with your very own signature!
You stamp it on every creation from the way you do your job to the way your express your art.
If it’s dance, you do it with grace. Business reflects your style. Even the mundane comes alive when you infuse it with your creative sparkle.
Doing it your way, your style, with your elegance and your smile… works! The same loving and positive energy you put in to what ever you do, attracts the same back to you and more!
People naturally gravitate towards you and think what you say has merit. They’re bowled over by the charm that is such a delightful part of who you are, it never feels artificial or that you have to work at being you.
- You Are Bold, Brave and Courageous
You go out and you make a path for yourself, and if there is no path, you dare to make your own. You are not fazed by difficulty and challenge because you know they are a fundamental part of your growth. Even when you fall time and time again, you never give up. Instead you pick yourself up, dust yourself down, and get back on track. There’s no looking back for you, unless it’s to learn from your mistakes so you can do it better the next time around.
When you know who you are, you are driven by a sense of adventure to satisfy your bold, brave and courageous spirit. Boring Ben and dull Debs won’t be on this fearless ride!
- You Stand Up For What You Believe In
Do you know people who sit on the fence, go with flow and blow in the direction of the wind? They wait for others to make a decision, then jump on the popular bandwagon?
They don’t have a voice or at least not one that commands any authority.
If they see a wrong doing, they’d rather turn the other way then turn it in.
People who have a strong sense of self are not afraid to stand up and be counted. They have a powerful voice and rally for injustice, inequality, an important cause, for suffering and for global peace.
What you stand up for and believe in is embodied in who you are. It is such a remarkable part of your character that it quite literally rights the wrongs of our society and makes the world better and safer for all. Knowing who you are empowers you to stand up to the bully at work or in the playground because you know your power and stance has a neutralizing affect on a two bit bully plus it challenges and changes the culture, prejudices and status quo.
- People Pleaser and Crowd Teaser!
This you are definitely NOT!
Some people are so preoccupied with what other people think, they crawl around like a chameleon changing their opinion and behaviour according to the situation.
They are lost and really don’t know who they are. They do things not because they want to but because they think they ought to, just to keep everyone else happy. The only one that isn’t happy deep down inside, yes you’ve guessed it, you!
Usually people like this lack personal power. Chances are they have no power in their romantic relationships, in their home, at work, amongst family and friends and generally feel powerless and unworthy.
You on the other hand with a strong sense of who you are spend a minuscule amount of time worrying about how others perceive you. The only person you are trying to please is you because you know a better you equals a better world.
And as for following or teasing the crowd, it’s not even part of the vocabulary of someone who leaves their own mark for OTHERS to follow.
- You Say What You Mean And Mean What You Say
Massaging someone else’s ego is really not your thing! You know it’s a waste of time and doesn’t help you or the other person to grow.
Being dishonest and hypocritical you know, will attract the same distasteful energy to your circle and who wants to be surrounded by a bunch of hypocrites?
When you know who you are, you know that being real and honest is far healthier and creates relationships that support your growth. Others get more value when you say what you mean and when you mean what you say, you get their respect.
Knowing Who You Are is the Real Deal!
Living from a position of inner power is the same as knowing who you are. It means that your view of the world is from spectacles of truth, integrity and love.
You drawn on your internal reservoir to design your life exactly the way you choose because you understand the capacity of that great resource.
You stay true to yourself even when others have sold out to the highest bid. You live life on your terms and walk your own path. Your internal compass leads you to do the right thing, even when others may not agree, that’s okay, you still move forward with the strength of your own conviction.
When you know who your are, you have many qualities because you have invested the time and commitment to self-growth and development. You are different and people remember you not necessarily for what you said or did but for the way you made them feel. The way you created the space for them to be visible and feel valued.
If you would like to develop some of the qualities I mention in this blog, I’d love to help you!
Change is a process and doesn’t happen over night but it does start with the first step. As a certified Life Coach I help you live from a position of power to create the life you choose.
I have helped clients overcome self-esteem, lose weight, start a business and find more joy and meaning in their lives.
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